Eyona Ubomi Bomtshato Isikhokelo se-LGBTQ + sesiBini esiya kwigama loTshintsho emva koMtshato

Isikhokelo se-LGBTQ + sesiBini esiya kwigama loTshintsho emva koMtshato

Ngaba kufuneka utshintshe ifani yakho emva kokutshata? Ugqiba njani ukuba uthathe bani? Zonke izibini zinokhetho, kwaye sizicacisile apha ngezantsi. Abatshati ababini beza UCarolyn Scott Photography Ukuhlaziywa ngoMeyi 21, 2020 Sifake iimveliso zomntu wesithathu ukukunceda uhambe kwaye wonwabele awona maxesha makhulu obomi. Ukuthengwa okwenziwe ngekhonkco kweli phepha kungasifumana ikhomishini.

Ngaba kufuneka uguqule igama lakho emva komtshato? Ukuba kunjalo, yintoni? Sisigqibo esihle kakhulu kuye nawuphina umntu, kodwa ngeendlela ezithile, kunokuba nzima nangakumbi kumalungu oluntu lwe-LGBTQ +. Nokuba sele uncike ekutshintshiseni amagama okanye ufuna ukulinganisa ukhetho lwakho, sidibanise ezi zikhokelo ukunceda:

Igama lomtshato Guqula iMithetho

Ngaba unokutshintsha igama lakho emva komtshato wesini esifanayo? Ewe, kwaye abantu abaninzi bayakwenza. Kodwa ngaphandle kwento yokuba umtshato wesini esifanayo ngoku usemthethweni kwilizwe liphela, inkqubo yokutshintsha igama elitshatileyo kubantu abatshatileyo inokubonakala yahlukile kurhulumente ukuya kurhulumente (nkqu nakwilizwe).



Ngombulelo kunyamezelo lwabaninzi, abantu abaninzi abebelwela ukujongana nenkcazo yomtshato, iNkundla ePhakamileyo ekugqibeleni yagweba ngo-2015 ukuba abantu abathandana besini esinye banelungelo lokutshata. Kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi, isiqinisekiso iphepha lomtshato Itikiti lokutshintsha igama elitshintshiweyo. Oko kwathethi, ukungalingani kusabuyisa intloko yayo embi.



Izipho zomtshato zomtshato zomtshakazi

Kwi County yaseMadison, Alabama, umzekelo, isatifikethi somtshato wesini esifanayo asinakusetyenziswa ukuhlaziya igama lakho kwilayisensi yakho yokuqhuba. Endaweni yokuba uzakufuna umyalelo wenkundla. Kwaye ukutshintsha kwegama lesini esifanayo ayisiyiyo kuphela enokuphathwa ngokwahlukileyo ngokuxhomekeke kwindawo okuyo. Kwezinye iindawo, indoda efuna ukuthatha ifani yomfazi wayo isenokufuna inkundla.

Ukuba udidekile malunga nemithetho ohlala kuyo okanye ucinga ukuba ujongene nocalucalulo, sicebisa ukuba udibane nengcali yezomthetho. Yazi ukuba kukho iinkonzo zotshintsho lwamagama ezinokukunceda. Omnye, obizwa ngokuba yiHitchSwitch, wamkela iifoto ezithunyelwe nge-imeyile zezatifikethi zomtshato. Ukusuka apho, iqela linokukunceda ubone ukuba ungazisebenzisa na ezakho ukutshintsha igama olifunayo.



iqhina lithembisa amakhonkco kuye

Igama lomtshato Guqula ukujonga

Kule mihla, imitshato incinci malunga 'nesiko' kunye nendlela ethe kratya malunga nesibini ngasinye, ibali labo lothando olwahlukileyo kunye nombono wabo. (Siza kuphakamisa iglasi kuloo nto!) Oko kuthetha ukuba kuncinci malunga nento ekufuneka 'uyenzile' kunye nokunye okwenzayo ndifuna ukwenza. Ngaba unako utshintsha igama lakho emva komtshato? Ngokupheleleyo-ubudlelwane besini esifanayo okanye enye into. Ngaba naliphi na iqabane unayo ukuya? Hayi, kwaye kwakhona, eya kuzo zonke izibini ezitshatileyo.

Ewe kunjalo, ukunqongophala kwesiqhelo kwi-LGBTQ + izibini zinokukhetha ukukhetha igama lokugqibela elisandul 'ukutshata. Igama lakho lingaphezulu kwelebheli oyinikiweyo-yinxalenye yesazisi sakho. Ngokulandelelana, kuya kufuneka ulinganise inkcubeko kunye nokulula kokugcina igama (amagama) lakho kunye noluvo lokuba ngowakho onokulifumana ngokwabelana ngegama losapho.

Ezinye iingcali-njengombhali, igqwetha okanye ukonwabisa-ukhathazeka ukuba ukutshintsha igama labo kunokuba nefuthe elibi kwikhondo labo lomsebenzi, kuba kufuna ngaphezulu kokuhlaziya amakhadi oshishino; kuthetha ukufikelela kubathengi kunye nabalandeli ukuba babazise ngesihloko esitsha. Abanye baziqhenya kakhulu ngookhokho babo kwaye baziva ngathi igama labo lokugcina libagcina benxulumene nembali yosapho abanokufuna ukuyidlulisela kubantwana babo. Ngapha koko, inkqubo yokutshintsha kwegama lomtshato ithatha ixesha, kwaye ezinye izibini zigqiba kwelokuba ukwabelana ngegama elifanayo akufaneki kubunzima bokuqokelela amaxwebhu, ukugcwalisa iifom kunye nokubiza ababolekisi. (Oko bekutshiwo, ukuba yiyo yonke loo nto ikubambezelayo, inkonzo yokutshintsha igama inokutshintsha ingqondo yakho. IHitchSwitch iyenza lula inkqubo ngokugcwalisa uninzi lweempepha zakho.)

Kwelinye icala, ezinye izibini zivakalelwa kukuba ukwabelana ngegama lokugqibela kukuzibonakalisa esidlangalaleni kokuzibophelela kwabo kwiintsapho zabo. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, balandela 'isiqhelo' sokukhetha igama lomlingane omnye okanye benze ifani eguqulweyo yosapho. Ukuba wena neqabane lakho niceba ukuba nabantwana kwaye nifuna ilungu ngalinye losapho libe negama elifanayo, oku kunokuba nomtsalane kuni. (Yindlela elungileyo yokunceda ukuqinisekisa ukuba nokuba uphi, uya kwaziwa njengesihlobo.)

iilori zokutya eziqeshwayo kufutshane nam

Lilonke, kukho izizathu ezingokweemvakalelo nezisebenzayo emva kwalo naluphi na ukhetho. Ekugqibeleni, isigqibo sesomntu kwaye kufuneka senziwe ngokusekwe kwinto evakala ilungile kwimeko yosapho lwakho.

Ukutshintsha kwegama lomtshato

Ufuna uncedo olungakumbi ekukhetheni igama lomtshato? Zama ukuguqukela kwabanye ukhuthazo lokutshintsha kwegama lokugqibela. Ngokwedatha yenkampani, iipesenti ezingama-49 ze-LGBTQ + izibini zihamba ngendlela yokukhetha igama lokugqibela lomlingane. Kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ayisiyiyo kuphela inketho.

Kwisibini esisandul 'ukutshata uMelinda noPatricia McCallinhart, baseColumbus, eOhio, isigqibo sabo sokudibanisa amagama abo okugqibela ukudala ifani entsha senza ezona ngqondo. 'Sasifuna into eza kuvakala iyindalo, kwaye kwakubalulekile kuthi ukuba singazenzisi amagama ethu,' utshilo uMelinda wokukhetha. 'Sasifuna ukumanyana njengentsapho kwaye sasifuna ukuba isimele sobabini. Igama elitsha limalunga nekamva elitsha kunye. Siyalithanda igama lethu lokugqibela. Sisikhumbuzo sokuba sabelana ngayo yonke into ngoku — indlu, imali, iikati, amaphupha ethu — zonke iinkalo zobomi bethu. '

Xa ukhetha eyiphi uza Thatha, ulinganise izibonelelo kunye nezinto ezingalunganga kukhetho ngalunye kwaye ukhethe okona kusebenza kakuhle kusapho lwakho. Olu khetho lubandakanya:

template yasimahla yesimemo somtshato womtshato

1. Ukungatshintshi igama lakho

Ukutsiba utshintsho lwasemva komtshato kuselukhetho oluthandwayo kwizibini ezininzi ze-LGBTQ +.

  • Eziluncedo: Oku kususa isidingo sokuhlaziya amaxwebhu okanye sokuqhelanisa negama elitsha. Ezinye izibini zivakalelwa kukuba imisela iqabane ngalinye ukuba lilingane.
  • Bendlela: Ukuba ukhetha olu khetho, kuya kufuneka ukhethe ukuba leliphi igama lomlingane oza kulinika abantwana bangomso.

2. Ukucazulula amagama omabini

UKUYA igama lokugqibela eliqingqiweyo lukhetho olulinganayo kwizibini ezifuna ukwabelana ngegama lokugqibela ngelixa zigcina iifani zosapho. Ngolu khetho, iqabane ngalinye lihamba ngenkqubo yokutshintsha igama.

  • Eziluncedo: Igama lomnxeba likuvumela ukuba wabelane ngegama lakho losapho kunye neqabane lakho kwaye yinto eyaziwayo kwizibini ezitshatileyo ezifuna ukuba abantwana bazo babe namagama okugqibela.
  • Bendlela: Igama lokugqibela eliqingqiweyo ngamanye amaxesha lide, kwaye abantu bathambekele ekulahleni igama lesibini lokugqibela xa indawo ingumba. Oku kunika igama lokuqala lokugqibela kuqala kunesibini.

3. Ukuthatha igama lomlingane wakho

Ngamanye amaxesha, elinye iqabane likhetha ukuthatha igama lomnye umlingane. Oku kuqhelekile xa elinye iqabane linegama elaziwa kakhulu okanye ekulula ukulibiza-okanye nje ukuba elinye iqabane livakalelwa ngamandla ngegama labo lokugqibela elinye alinalo!

  • Eziluncedo: Ukuthatha igama lokugqibela kuhlala kuyinto elungileyo ekukhetheni abantwana, ngakumbi xa igama lokugqibela lifutshane kunokuba lifutshane. Olu lukhetho olusekwe kakuhle kwizibini ezitshatileyo, ke amaziko emali kunye neearhente zikarhulumente zinenkqubo echazwe ngokucacileyo yokwenza utshintsho.
  • Bendlela: Elinye iqabane kufuneka lihambe ngenkqubo yokutshintsha kwamagama ngelixa elinye lingenalo, kwaye ukuthatha isigqibo sokuba ngubani otshintsha igama kuwo nawuphi na umtshato kunokuba nzima.

4. Ukwenza igama elitsha

Abanye abatshatileyo bathatha isigqibo sokuba omabini amaqabane aya kuwashiya amagama abo kwaye athathe elitsha ngokupheleleyo. Unokwenza ifani entsha edibanisa izinto zamagama akho oqobo (umzekelo, uSam Brown kunye noAlex Smith babe ziiBrownsmiths). Okanye, unokukhetha inoveli epheleleyo, ukuba uthanda indlela emele ngayo usapho lwakho.

  • Eziluncedo: Ngokwenza igama elitsha, ubeka isiko elitsha kusapho kwaye iqabane ngalinye liphathwa ngokulinganayo. Nobabini neqabane lakho kuya kufuneka nihlaziye onke amaxwebhu kunye neeakhawunti.
  • Bendlela: Olu khetho lufuna umsebenzi osemthethweni ngakumbi, njengoko kuya kufuneka ucele utshintsho lwegama ngenkqubo yenkundla. Kuya kufuneka uqeshe igqwetha ukuze ligqibe inkqubo. Inokucaphukisa amalungu osapho ajonga igama elitsha njengokulahlwa kosapho lwantlandlolo.

Inkqubo yokutshintsha igama lomtshato

Bonke abantu abasandul 'ukutshata abakulungele ukutshintsha igama labo lokugqibela kufuneka bahlaziye izazisi zabo, ezemali kunye namaxwebhu asemthethweni. Sincoma ukwenza lula inkqubo yokutshintsha kwegama ngenkonzo efana neHitchSwitch. Khetha nje enye yeephakeji ezifanelekileyo, ngenisa ulwazi oluyimfuneko kwaye ufumane ipakethi yokutshintsha igama elicwangciswe ngokupheleleyo kunye nemiyalelo yokugcwalisa utshintsho. Ukuba ukhetha ukuhamba ngendlela yesikhokelo, jonga ukugqibelela kwethu utshintsho igama 101 Isikhokelo, esihamba kuzo zonke iziseko. Okanye, bhekisa kwindlela yethu eneenkcukacha zokutshintsha kwegama ngurhulumente.